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Even if 1996 had never occurred, James would be an extraordinary man. A Navy veteran, he wed the love of his life and enjoyed 18 years of marital bliss before she died suddenly of a brain hemorrhage. He fathered a boy born with physical disabilities and extreme autism, and cared for him for almost two decades before being forced to place him in the violent ward of a psychiatric hospital.
James has two bachelor’s degrees
and taught special education for 22 years, despite being one of the few men in
the field. For a time, he even worked with profoundly intellectually disabled
children—that most severe, 1-2 percent of the mentally disabled population with
IQs of less than 25, for whom even basic communication is sometimes impossible.
But in 1994, James’s life started
on a toxic, horror-movie decline. First, he was legally separated from his
second wife. The next year, a hurricane completely destroyed his Florida home
and almost claimed his life. And in November of 1996, a brutal car accident tore
James apart, hospitalizing him for months and brutally rearranging his body. The
Veteran, Special Ed. teacher, saintly father and heartbroken widower was now
jobless and homeless, with a damaged body and even more hurt spirit.
Incapable of returning to the
classroom or his normal life, James entered a homeless shelter in Panama City,
where—despite still being on crutches—he worked as a security guard and deskman
for four years. Once free of the crutches, James decided to set out on his own.
He went to Colorado Springs, hoping to get a restaurant job, but quickly
learned that he was “too old, too slow and too hurt” to be hired.
So James traveled south to Santa
Fe, and found a job selling newspapers at the intersection of Osage and Hopi
(where you can still see him today). He took up residence in a small room at
the Thunderbird Inn, and things were looking up until his hip gave out—for the
second time since the accident.
He sold papers on crutches for
three more years, mostly thanks to an concrete archway just off the street that
he’s able to lean on to rest his hip.
“I’ve very motivated, I tell
you,” James says with humor.
Then he hurt his back, and despite
his best efforts, James found himself struggling to make ends meet.
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Cue Santa Fe Need and Deed. The
organization, which SFR has previously highlighted, is relatively new to the
city. Its first meeting was this February. But in just half a year it already
has much to brag about. James connected with Need and Deed and was paired with
Carol DeCosta, a Santa Fean who understood James’s plight better than most.
DeCosta had her own devastating
car accident in 2004, which left her unable to continue her 30-year career as a
paralegal. She also developed severe rheumatoid arthritis, and soon found
herself struggling to pay the rent. Thankfully, her “landlords were
saints”—their cooperation and DeCosta’s experience in the legal field allowed
her to postpone paying her debts until she got back on her feet. With such a
background, it only made sense for her to join Need and Deed.
“I read the first story that the
Reporter wrote and was inspired, so I went to the first meeting [of SF Need and
Deed] back in February. It spoke to me, and I realized I had something to
contribute,” DeCosta says. “The problem [of homelessness] is huge and
nationwide. But this is where we live.”
DeCosta is now the manager of
the LLC, and works regularly with James, not only as a sponsor, but also as a
trusted adviser, occasional chauffer and a friend.
In their time together, James
and DeCosta have collaborated to get him a cellphone and para-transit license.
He is also getting tooth replacement surgery for gum disease. And in 2013,
James will finally get the hip replacement surgery he has needed for 16 years,
since that fateful day in 1996.

What’s next for Need and Deed?
The group is raising awareness and trying to expand their network to meet more
needs. Decosta is also working on “getting our legal ducks in a row,” which improves
their funding prospects.
“Our goal is to help people get
back on their feet. If they can take over having their life work, and benefit
in the long term, we’re happy. It’s very rewarding,” says DeCosta.
And James?
“Carol [DeCosta] took me to
about six of these low-income housing projects around town. We found one, and
I’m hopefully moving in on [August] 31st.”
“He is moving in. There’s no probably,” interrupts DeCosta. “It’s a
handicap-accessible apartment with energy-efficient appliances and his own
washer and dryer, and only $590 a month for the rent. ”
“And it’s all because of Carol,”
says James with a grin.
Santa Fe Need and Deed meets Wednesdays at 4 pm at Christ Church Santa Fe, and welcomes interested Needers and Deeders. You do not have to attend meetings to donate or to be on the email list. Call 920-2227 for more information. And as DeCosta says “No matter how bad the circumstances are, there’s always something to give back, even if it’s just a smile.”